"I think lots of people want to soften the blow. It's not nice to let someone down especially if you know that they're into you."
rather than saying I'm not interested anymore I feel sooooo guilty ending it that it nearly puts me off dating.
Told him my ex contacted me again and I'm not ready for a new relationship.
#I DATE UP SOME DATE DOWN FULL#
☏ It's hard! Especially when they ask in person on the first date if you're keen for a second date, and you don't want to embarrass them and say no to their face.so you says yes (knowing full well you're not interested and that you're going to then let them down by text). ☏ I'm a HUGE people pleaser so even if I just have a drunk night and pash a guy or hook up and they follow up I always end up agreeing to dinner straight away even though I don't want to at all, and then I end up bailing.
#I DATE UP SOME DATE DOWN HOW TO#
☏ I once said yes to a second date even though I wasn't keen and half an hour before the date I texted and said I couldn't go because my dog was sick I felt real bad but I didn't know how to say no. I live 7 hours away but the girl is so keen and has offered to come visit me but I just don't like her as much as she likes me. ☏ Literally in this exact situation right now. She's way too sweet to ghost but I just don't know how I can break the news to her that I'm no longer interested, I've found myself making excuses to the Hinge girl so I can hang out with this other person, feels so wrong. ☏ I matched with this girl on Hinge and we went on an amazing first date and haven't stopped talking, since though I've become way more romantically invested in someone else. We asked you on our Instagram if you found it hard to tell someone when you weren't interested, and so many of you dm'd us! I feel so bad'." Turns out A LOT of Hook Up listeners can relate I remember being in the dressing room with a few of the girls before the chat and I was so nervous, I was crying and I was like, 'I can't do this. I'm so sorry.' And I would just let the conversation fade."īut because she was on an island and couldn't really ghost, Georgia was kind of forced to have those conversations. "I would slowly ghost and be like, 'I'm super busy at the moment. "If I was ever in an uncomfortable situation where I wasn't feeling the same way as someone, it was very hard for me to express that." Instead of just telling them straight up she's not keen, she makes them think there's still a chance. She told The Hook Up that she really struggles with being a people pleaser. On the latest season of Too Hot To Handle - a reality dating show on Netflix, Australian contestant Georgia Hassarati has guys declaring their love for her left, right and center. So why do we feel the need to do the breadcrumbing, the excuses and the ghosting? And how can we find the courage (?) to send more honest 'I'm not interested texts' in 2022? Georgia from Too Hot To Handle can't handle letting boys down You know it's shitty, and you should just be honest and tell them you're not interested but for some reason you just can't do it. Or you just do the classic no reply and ghost them. Or you pretend you're moving overseas (yes.this is something a listener did). Or maybe you agree to go on a second date and then come up with an excuse at the last minute. You might reply and say " sounds good! Really busy this week, maybe next x" Do you find it hard to be straight up and honest? But you're not really keen to catch up again.
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